How to Get the Body, Life & Happiness You Want

How to Get the Body, Life & Happiness You Want

In order to get the body and life you want, you must become aware your Subconscious Feedback Loop, and then you have to become very good at managing it.

You see, everything that you hear and see—from TV, to radio and music, or to the voice of your boss speaking to you—is considered your input.

You can think of this input in the same manner as you think about food when you’re attempting to transform your body.

By allowing only positive input to enter your mind (healthy food that supports fat loss, health, and longevity), you will be much better off in life than people who allow anything and everything to enter their minds (gossip, news, negativity, excessive pop culture Television, etc..).

To give you an example, allowing negative input to enter your mind is the equivalent of eating a box of doughnuts a few times a week and expecting to be a few pounds lighter and inches smaller by the end of the week.

No matter how hard you exercise or how clean you eat to try and make up for your doughnut binges, weight loss just won’t happen.

This is where being aware of your subconscious feedback loop comes into play.

Here’s the deal, your subconscious feedback loop is basically the “system” that governs your thoughts, ideas, feelings, actions, and expectations of yourself and others.

It’s like a software program that’s always running in the background and influencing your every action; the only difference is that this software can be reprogrammed by your environment and by other people to make you do things without even realizing it.

Your subconscious feedback loop is very powerful because it works on the mind at a deeper level, a level that you are not even aware of.

A recent article published in the New York Times explains how easy it is to alter a person’s perception or judgement. Here’s a small part of the article:

In a recent experiment, psychologists at Yale altered people’s judgements of a stranger by handing them a cup of coffee. The study participants, college students, had no idea that their social instincts were being deliberately manipulated.

On the way to the laboratory, they had bumped into a laboratory assistant, who was holding textbooks, a clipboard, papers and a cup of hot or iced coffee—and asked for a hand with the cup.

That was all it took: The students who held a cup of iced coffee rated a hypothetical person they later read about as being much colder, less social, and more selfish than did their fellow students who had momentarily held a cup of hot java.

Here’s what this all has to do with your body transformation. Outside factors influence your thoughts, decisions, actions, and, ultimately, your ability or desire to attain your goals.

Ultimately, your success in anything is influenced by two major factors:

  1. The people you associate with.
  2. The thoughts that occupy your mind.

Several years ago, a friend of mine named Frank, told me about a trip he and his family took to Alaska where they were sightseeing the glaciers.

It was a very interesting story to hear as I had never visited Alaska. One of the ports that my friends ship stopped at was a town where they did a lot of fishing for crabs.

Frank said…

As we were walking along the water checking out the scenery, I saw a man who was fishing off the rocks for crabs and he had a five-gallon bucket next to him and inside of it were a bunch of crabs, each about the size of your hand.

As we stood there watching the fisherman do his thing, I noticed that one ambitious crab was climbing on top of the other ones and was getting ready to reach up for the rim of the bucket and boost himself up to freedom.

This little crab was going to make a run for it!

Just as the little crab started reaching for the rim of the bucket, all the other crabs in the bucket reached up, grabbed him by the legs and pulled him right down.

The crab fisherman explained to me that crabs do that instinctively and so he never needs to put a lid on the bucket.”

It’s at this point that I said, “Wow!”

I realized that we all have people like this in our lives.

These are people who drag you down, keep you down and want you to be in the same boat (or bucket) that they are in. For lack of a better word, we will call these people crabs.

To be successful, you absolutely must avoid crabs in your life. If you know who these people are in your life—family or relatives—and cannot eliminate them completely, then the least you can do is reduce the amount of time you spend around them.

Next is number two: the thoughts that occupy your mind . . .

These are the things that influence your feedback loop because they control, alter, and manage your subconscious mind and your subconscious mind controls your conscious mind, which is what makes you do the things you do, minute by minute.

It goes like this:

Let’s say your goal is to lose thirty pounds so you can look amazing at the pool or beach. For you to lose weight you have to do something (exercise and diet).

For you to exercise and diet you need to take an action to go to the gym and to buy healthy foods that help you burn fat. For you to take this action you need to make a decision to do something.

But your decisions are controlled by your thoughts and your thoughts are formed by the input that goes into your conscious and subconscious mind.

Lose 30 Pounds >> Diet & Exercise >> Action >> Decision >> Thoughts >> Input

Your input is what you get from the things you watch, listen to, read, and the people whom you surround yourself with.

A perfect example would be if you watch the news, then all you hear about is danger.

And if you listen to gossip, then you believe that people are bad, and when you read the papers all you see is unemployment, bad economy, and scarcity.

I don’t know about you, but as an entrepreneur, if the thoughts that are floating around in my mind are danger, people are bad, the economy, unemployment, and scarcity, then the actions I take are not going to result in my accomplishing or creating anything significant that positively impacts other people’s lives.

To succeed and continue to succeed, you need to relentlessly manage the input that’s coming into your mind because your “subconscious feedback loop” is always running in the background and influencing your thoughts, decisions, actions, and, ultimately, your success and happiness.

To give you an example, I stopped watching TV (especially the news) years ago, because mostly all I heard on the news was bad stuff happening, from unemployment to kidnappings, to house fires to murders, and on and on.

Second, you need to eliminate the crabs in your life. It may not be easy to eliminate people in your life who are around you the most (friends, family, etc.), but you’ll be amazed at what you can accomplish when you get rid of folks who are negative and do nothing but drag you down.

If you cannot get rid of the crabs in your life completely, at the very least significantly reduce the amount of time you spend with them.

Your goals, health, and happiness depend on it.

Until next time, your friend and coach,


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2 thoughts on “How to Get the Body, Life & Happiness You Want”

  1. Great post Adi. I have people in my life who are huge crabs, time to start trimming my social circle. Some of them are close friends and family! Looking forward to reading more articles like this.

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