When I was 21 I thought I had it all figured out…
In reality I didn’t know shit about shit.
Looking back at my 21 year old self now makes me laugh and cringe at the same time.
The harsh truth is that the plan that’s laid out to men between the ages of 18 and 21 is a plan that is destined to fail.
Regrets don’t do jack squat for anyone, but if I were able to jump into a time machine and found myself 21 years old again, this is what I’d be glad to know:
1) Don’t Make Women a Priority
Your number one priority should be to make money and develop skills that continue to help you make money and build a life for yourself.
There are over 3 billion women in the world and they are basically all the same.
Your soul-mate Kimberly is not one in a million, at best she is about one in a hundred.
She can be replaced, and it is not love that you feel for her but rather it’s infatuation.
If she wanted you then you would not want her so much because she does not want you to want her.
It’s human nature to always want what we can’t have, and then when we get what we want we don’t want it anymore.
You don’t need a degree in psychology to understand that.
2) Don’t Get Married
She is not your soulmate, she is not “the one”, it’s not true love.
That’s my 100% money back guarantee to you.
Assuming you are a westerner, especially and American, getting married will be the single biggest mistake of your life.
Just say no.
As a young man you can be free to play the field and date around.
Tying yourself to one woman with a Government enforce noose will do two things:
Significantly reduce your income and turn you into a shell of the man you were after she gets bored with you, divorces you so she can find herself, and the Government helps her finance it with your money.
Wait until later in life and pick the right wife before you sign your life away, that is if marriage is something that interests you.
3) Going to College Does NOT Guarantee Money
“It is time to get women out of the schooling of boys. It is way past time. Women in our feminized classrooms are consigning generations of our sons to years of misery and diminished futures. The evidence is everywhere. Few dare notice it.” – Fred Reed
College is a big joke. Yes, I said it and you read it.
In today’s college classroom you are 10X more likely to have female English teacher who has the build of a linebacker, and rather than teach you English, you will be taught about feminism.
If you’re thinking “wow what a waste of time” you are right.
You can waste years in college, aimlessly drift through classes because that what you’re supposed to do.
The harsh reality is that you are not guaranteed a job or a career and your college degree is going to be the most expensive piece of paper that you will purchase in your entire life.
A college degree in this day of age usually guarantees only one thing: debt.
Making money and living well is 100% completely up to you, not a piece of paper.
I never learned anything in college and with good reason: colleges are filled to the hilt with stupid people.
It’s not a coincidence that college grads look like glassy eyed morons as they serve your coffee.
Smart people simply don’t belong in college unless you are going to school to become a physician, a surgeon or a scientist, otherwise college is completely unnecessary.
Every successful entrepreneur will tell you the same thing: “I never used my college degree for anything”
4) Gym Time is Critical While You Are Young
While you are young you must build your body and your strength, a physically weak man is a failure and the body of the average man is disgraceful.
As a young man you should have a few things going for you. Those things are high natural growth hormone, testosterone and high IGF-1 levels.
Take advantage of those now because as you get closer to 30 those levels diminish.
In your 20’s is the time to get in the gym and build your body naturally to it’s peak.
A body built when you are young will stay with you for a lifetime.
Do not take steroids as a young man, your HPTA levels are still developing. Using steroids when you are in your 20’s can and will result in an underdeveloped HPTA which will result in permanent lack of HPTA maturity.
What this basically means is that you will permanently mess up your natural testosterone levels. – Not good!
5) You Have a Future
Never listen to people that say “This is the best time of your life. It’s all downhill from here.“
Simply put, your life is as good as you make it.
Work to build yourself a future and you will have a nice one.
I can confidently say that my life is phenomenally better at 30 than it was at 21 but I never sat around longing for the old days, I was always working on myself to make something of myself.
Forget about the retirement scam, work on your own future, build yourself.
Your future is yours to make, but your future will come whether you build a good one or a poor one.
Do not sit on your ass and wait until it’s too late to make something of yourself.
When you are in your 20’s and 30’s your mental and physical energy and acuity are at their peak.
Use this time to build something that you will be proud to have in your 40’s, 50’s and beyond.
6) Pay Attention to Money
Never pay attention to the “money is the root of all evil” talk.
The people who say this are morons.
Money is the #1 necessity of life.
Forget about greed, money is need.
Make it so you can do as you wish and have the highest amount of freedom possible.
Keep multiple bank accounts with balances in each and always keep some cash on hand.
7) Everything is Not Just A or B, There Is a C Solution
The world is never just black and white, Christian or atheist, Republican or Democrat, liberal or conservative.
Stand on the outside and look in to make the best decisions.
As soon as you say “I’m so and so” you stop thinking about things and you stop viewing them in the correct format.
If you say “I’m a liberal” you’ll follow liberal dogma, if you say “I’m a Republican” you’ll follow Republican dogma.
There is a 3rd option, a 4th option, a 5th option etc. but it requires you to put on your thinking cap and not just accept your group’s POV without thought.
8) Nobody Believes In You
It’s sad but true, no one believes you can succeed outside of the college, job and marriage paradigm.
Frankly, they are right to not believe in you because until you have walked the walk you are just a daydreamer.
The fact is that until you’ve accomplished what you have set out to accomplish there is absolutely no reason for anyone to believe in you.
All you have to do is realize that no one believes in you and never seek approval from anyone.
Approval is for dogs, men take what they want and don’t ask permission.
As an outsider you will be able to see things clearly in a way that group-followers never will.
9) Feminism Is a Sick Joke
My fellow young men, you’ve been sold a bag of horse crap with the whole feminism thing.
Let me explain the reality is perfect English: Western women were never discriminated against, there is no such thing as ‘rape culture’, women aren’t paid less for the same work, feminism is not about equality.
Feminism is about women trying to be men without any responsibility.
Feminism has left you with a pool of women who are truly insane.
Kick dirt in the face of feminism.
See feminism for what it is and not for what it tries to make itself out to be.