It has been my experience that 98 out of every 100 men are like weeds in the wind.
They bend this way and they bend that way, whichever way the wind is blowing that day.
It has further been my experience that 2 men out of every 100 men stand firm regardless of which way the wind is blowing.
The subject of this article is “How to be a great man.”
Notice the word great.
Anyone can be a man, it takes something more to become a great man.
I aim to show you the way to be far superior to the average Joe.
I don’t care to show you how to shave, or pee standing up, or to show you which deodorant is the manliest, I care only to show you the way to become great.
If you want to be a real man, go chug a keg of beer at the bar and laugh about it with all the other morons sitting on the bar-stools next to you.
If you want to be a great man this year and for the rest of your life, put away the distractions and read this list with undivided attention…
1) Open Your Eyes to Reality
It is the #1 duty of a leader to make sure his eyes are open.
It sounds obvious but it isn’t.
When I speak simple truths to people, they look at me like I’m from a different planet.
As if to say “b-b-b-but you cannot say that!
Truth should be ignored!”
So many people are oblivious to reality.
They would rather believe in a fairy tale of a third eye rather than open their two regular eyes to see the world as it is.
Here is an example, I found this comment on a random YouTube video:
“Majority of the population has there eyes sewed shut with there heads in the sand .. Its time to wake up open your third eyes’ and see everything and anything you want..”
Wouldn’t it make more sense to simply open your eyes and remove your head from the sand?
Actually, that is too obvious and 98% of people cannot see the obvious.
This is their grave misfortune and your great fortune.
Their blind attitude is an invitation to bad luck and bad luck is not fit for a man of fortune.
A great man of fortune must see the opportunity to take advantage of it.
2) Develop a Good (POSITIVE) Attitude
Money and other good things come to men who have a good, positive mindset.
Misfortune and bad luck comes to the men who say: “I have the worst luck!”
Listen here and listen well: Words are magic spells. That is why we spell words.
Every word you say becomes true so never say negative things in relation to yourself.
Every bad word you use is black magic and every positive word you use is white magic.
Do not be foolish and cast a bad luck spell on yourself. Use positive words like this:
I am so grateful
I have the best luck
I have great fortune
I am the most fortunate man alive
Good fortune comes to me like birds come to trees
Becoming positive is very easy to do.
When your thoughts and positive and well-intentioned, people will start paying attention to you.
3) Make People Pay Attention to You
Gene Simmons from KISS tells a great story to illustrate my point…
“When I was a little kid, up in the hills of Israel, my friend Shlomo and I — he was a Moroccan Jew — went up the hills of Mount Carmel. People used to come home from work, and the very last stop on the bus stop was the beginning of Mount Carmel, the village.
I remember — Shlomo and I went to the top of the hill and picked cactus fruit. I remember when I first was sitting there as the first bus rolled in, we didn’t make a lot of noise. I must have been about six, and Shlomo must have been seven or eight.
I didn’t say anything — I was waiting for them to come over, because I’ve got cold cactus fruit. Nobody came over. Then I went, ‘Hey!’, and more people came over.
The bigger of a nuisance and the bigger a spectacle that I made of myself, the more we sold.
That’s the first lesson of mother nature and in show business — when the mother bird brings back a juicy worm, who do you think’s going to get the worm: the biggest bird, the healthiest bird, or the sickliest little putz that squeaks the loudest?
You have to grab life by the scruff of the neck and demand to pay you some attention.”
Like Gene said, do what you have to do to get what you want.
4) THE BODY IS THE MIND (develop BOTH, or suffer)
Your body is the physical projection of your mind.
If you keep your body supremely healthy your mind will be supremely wealthy.
Don’t you think there is a reason that Superman looks like Superman and not like the Penguin?
If Superman looked like the Penguin do you really think he would be the same man with the same mindset?
If your body looked like Superman your mind would be like Superman because the mind is the body (and both need to be kept healthy).
Never let yourself get out of shape for any reason.
Your mental sharpness, optimism, joy, mood, and life satisfaction go down significantly when you are overweight, even by just 15-20 pounds.
When I did my first several bodybuilding contests back in high school, I followed the traditional approach to getting bigger by “bulking up”.
Back then I was oblivious to what all the extra weight I was carrying was doing to my joints, my mood, energy levels and productivity.
At 220+ pounds running outside or on a treadmill felt like my feet were under water!
My mood was constantly swinging up and down like a seesaw and I only had an hour or two of energy a day before I felt exhausted, tired and lethargic.
Now days, I maintain 8-9% level bodyfat at roughly 193 pounds and I have tons of energy and a steady and positive mood nearly 24/7.
Your body-weight has an enormous impact on your energy, productivity, mood and happiness.
There’s no way around it:
Get lean or you will always perform and get less than what you are capable of in life.
5) Don’t Use Drugs and Don’t Drink Alcohol Regularly
To be a great man of business and success you must always be of a calm, clear mind.
There is no other way to say it but to say it plainly: drugs and alcohol will ruin you if you make a habit of using them regularly.
This is one area where I recommend moderation or total abstinence.
A glass of wine every other day is fine. A beer or two once or twice a week is fine.
Making a habit of getting and being intoxicated is not.
PT Barnum said it well:
As no man can succeed in business unless he has a brain to enable him to lay his plans, and reason to guide him in their execution, so, no matter how bountifully a man may be blessed with intelligence, if the brain is muddled, and his judgment warped by intoxicating drinks, it is impossible for him to carry on business successfully.”
Nearly all mentally ill and depressed people have a problem with drugs and alcohol.
Read that again.
Here are a few people who loved drugs and alcohol (notice how they ended up):
Everybody who stays in the party scene can expect:
a) their minds to turn to mush, and…
b) to one day wake up in jail, the nuthouse, the intensive care unit, or the morgue where they won’t wake up at all.
Jail is the best you can hope for when you play around with the hard stuff and that is why so many jailbirds say “I go to jail to clean up.”
Spending your life wasted is just wasting your life.
Unlike illicit drugs and alcohol, performance enhancing substances (I am referring to dietary supplements) are a necessity if you desire to reach the top of any sport, business/entrepreneurship and become a self-actualized man in the top 5%.
Performance enhancing supplements have come a long way and many are now far superior to what was available in the early 2000’s, and even just six or seven years ago.
Creatine, D-AA, Beta-Alanine, Kratom, quality herbal caffeine based fat burners and energy boosters and other formulated supplements are very potent and can often mimic the performance enhancement of illicit drugs like cocaine, anabolic steroids and prescription stimulants (Adderall, etc..)
6) Maintain High Testosterone & Low Estrogen Levels
Hormones are everything.
To be a true man you have to have high testosterone and low estrogen.
Ladyboys like Uncle Caitlyn have wacky hormones.
No sugarcoating here; Update your testosterone before you become an effeminate male.
To be a the man that you were meant to be, it is 100% necessary to control your hormones to the best of your ability using any methods that actually work.
Herbal (non-steroid) testosterone boosters are the best way to go, after you’ve got your diet down pat.
No testosterone boosting supplement on earth will help you get to the next level if you are eating processed crap, sugar and other empty calories on a regular basis.
Maintain high-testosterone levels with a diet rich in meat (grass fed is #1), eggs, butter, whole milk and other animal products.
Never heat your food in plastic containers (plastic leeches testosterone killing chemicals) and never eat fake franken food (GMO’s).
To ensure you don’t eat fake food, read the label!
Even better to don’t eat anything from a can, jar or box, only buy real food that you have to cook.
Which leads my to the next rule, which is very mild and easy to follow…
7) Don’t Spit in The Face Of Mother Nature
Recently I stayed in a resort hotel that had the restrooms outside, separated from the neighbor’s restroom by only a small brick wall so I could hear the neighbors.
One day I heard 2 German fellows showering together, laughing about dropping the soap and playing grab-ass.
They were laughing and just having a really great time and right then I thought to myself: “Gee willy that’s gay.”
Now I’m no member of the moral police and I really don’t care if someone is gay, but nobody is going to confuse a fruity fellow with a great man.
Nobody is going to high-five you for going against the laws of nature.
A great man is only born from a father and a mother, so…
8) Pick the Right Wife
I don’t recommend getting married, the cons far outweigh the benefits.
But if you do get married you must pick the right wife.
Your wife is your business partner not your one true love.
A marriage will be the greatest business partnership you ever form and you must choose wisely.
If you marry someone for love you are making a foolish decision.
Love and looks will fade in time, you will be left only with attitude.
Your wife has to have a positive mental attitude just like you.
Together, with a shared common goal, you will be able to do many great things that are more difficult to do if you were alone.
Speaking of love, it isn’t really real.
“Love” is an infatuation that happens when
a) someone cares less about you than you care about them or
b) a lovely looking lady has bewitched you with her looks.
We all know men who become stupid when they meet a pretty girl. This is because they have been bewitched.
Bewitching happens when pretty girls use charm and sex to put a hex on you.
This is why it is very important to choose a wife for more than just looks.
“I don’t believe in love at first sight. I think it’s a grave mistake. You’re attracted by physical characteristics, and you will regret it.” -Lee Kuan Yew
In the quest for great success, her helpful attitude is much more important than her looks and glamour.
Chasing her looks will end up with her in complete control of you. Chasing glamour can cause otherwise capable men to lose everything.
Remember this, she is your BUSINESS PARTNER.
Make sure your business partner has the same positive mental attitude and the same goal as you.
Your partnership can produce grand things or it can produce total ruin.
Choose the right wife by her attitude and willingness to go with you on your journey to greatness.
Don’t ever “do the right thing” and get married to try and be a good guy because being too nice will be your ruin.
9) Don’t Be Too Nice
Let me tell you about the invisible little girl in the supermarket…
I was shopping at the local grocery store the other day and in front of me in line was a little girl.
She looked like she was waiting to pay for something, but she didn’t say anything so no one paid any attention to her.
She was at the front of the checkout line. There were about 3 people in front of me. They all purchased their food and left, the little girl just silently stood there.
When I got to the front of the line, I looked at the little girl and I looked at the cashier. I said “what does this little girl want?”
Finally, the cashier looked at the little girl and asked her what she wanted. The little girl said she wanted to buy some candy.
She was too nice to say anything so she just waited until somebody acknowledged her before she could buy her candy.
Finally after she was asked what she wanted, she was able to buy her candy and leave.”
Do you know what I realized after seeing the invisible little girl?
Being too nice can make you invisible in this world.
It’s ok to be nice as a kiddo, but when you grow up it’s time to grow some balls because nice guys are treated worse than invisible.
Nobody respects nice guys because nice guys don’t demand respect or command fear.
In other words, they have the characteristics of what is often called a “pussy”.
Being nice can become your demise, you gotta be a little mean to get the green.
10) Make Enough Money
Friend, let’s face reality.
You’re not really much of a man if you’re broke, are you?
That is because money is a manifestation of your mentality as a man.
When you make money people start treating you with respect.
Never flash money, but flip your money mentality and mature, and you will silently start to command respect.
When you can command money, you can command the world.
Making enough money has nothing to do with luck, it has everything to do with your ability as a man of will (not skill).
Men of will have money.
Having enough money solves the problem of not having money, which is the biggest problem you can have.
11) STOP Using Internet Porn
Internet porn saps your precious vital energy and darkens your eyes and your soul.
Be a real life sex god, don’t be a dark bedroom computer weirdo.
Occasional Sex in real life GIVES YOU VITAL ENERGY.
Internet porn zaps it away.
Masturbation is the true #1 killer of confidence and capability.
The negative effects of masturbation are both mental and physical.
Physical effects of jacking off: “This vital fluid of man carried back and diffused through his system makes him manly, strong, brave and heroic. If wasted, it leaves him effeminate, weak and physically debilitated.”
Mental effects of jacking off: “In masturbation there is nothing but loss. There is no reciprocity. There is merely the spending away of a certain force, and no return. The body remains, in a sense, a corpse, after the act of self-abuse. There is no change, only deadening.”
Also, do not be addicted to social media.
It is unbecoming of a man to gossip on social media all day long.
Being a great man requires you to live in the REAL world and do real things that benefit real people.
When you spend your time watching internet porn or scrolling through social media all you do is waste away.
If you love to stare at words so much why waste your eyes reading social media when you could be reading true knowledge?
12) Reduce Your Screen-Time
It’s a sad fact that teenagers who spend the most amount of time staring at their phones and laptops looking at social media, playing games and doing other time-wasting, non-knowledge gaining nonsense, end up committing suicide 100x more frequently than teens who spend most of their time playing sports and being outside.
Here is the reality of social media that most people who are on social media are completely oblivious to;
Social media was created by Asocial, Asexual men FOR Asocial, Asexual men
Take one look at Mark Zuckerberg and tell me what word comes to your mind.
You see, social media has become huge because it’s a platform that thrives on advertising.
The more you use facebook and Instagram, the more money Mark Zuckerberg makes.
Facebook was never meant to be as large and ubiquitous as it has become today…
It was started by a group of Asocial guys in college university who wanted to keep up with and eavesdrop on their classmates, especially girls.
It’s OK to use facebook and instagram occasionally.
It’s NOT OK to spend hours a day on these platforms (being addicted).
You will never be truly happy, peaceful and content if you keep spending hours on social media every day.
That’s because social media is NOT DESIGNED TO MAKE YOU HAPPY.
Social media is a drug on your brain.
It is designed to make you addicted to “likes” and to seek constant validation and attention, just like a junkie is addicted to crack or heroin, when you use social media your brain lights up like a drug addicts.
Reduce your time spent on social media this year and watch your happiness and mood brighten significantly.
Here’s an eye-opening video that shows you what social media does to your mental health and wellbeing over time:
13) Break Your Phone Addiction
Most people aged 15-35 are addicted to their phones like dope-heads are addicted to dope.
Young people today think their phone is an “extension of them.”
When you’re on your phone you are in other people’s worlds, never your own.
On the phone you can never be in the moment, you can never be totally absorbed in your own world.
Instead, you become totally absorbed in someone else’s world.
You already know that phones kill relationships.
In the same way they kill relationships, they also kill your creativity.
Not only does staring at your phone non-stop make you look like a jerk, your phone does very nasty things to your body!
Staring at your phone kills your posture and can alter the shape of your spine over time.
Leading us to the next critical point on phones..
Keep your phone on airplane mode
Your phone must be kept on airplane mode because of an invisible thing in the air called electro-magnetic radiation.
Electro-magnetic radiation is how your phone is able to be used without wires or chords.
Electro-magnetic radiation is how your phone works “wireless”.
But wireless does not equal “painless” and much of the depression, joint pain, inner agitation people feel today is due to electro-magnetic radiation aka electro-magnetic hell in your cell.
Keep your gadgets on airplane mode when not using them because it is in your very best interest to do so.
“But Adi, what if someone calls? I’ll miss the call!!”
Let people know ahead of time when they should and should not call you.
Keep your phone on airplane mode and never ever keep your laptop on your lap – It fries your testicles and kills your testosterone levels!
14) Be Well-Read
In my home I started with a small library in the corner.
The library eventually grew to any overtake any open spot in the home.
At first I had a small library in my home then I had a small home in my library.
I eventually sold, gave away or trashed most of my possessions except for my books.
Knowledge is too valuable to just give away to the uninitiated and unconcerned.
All great men of knowledge gained their knowledge the exact same way: By being voracious book readers AND applying that knowledge to real life situations.
All of the knowledge in the known world is inside of books, the more books you read the more knowledge you gain.
Spend at least 1 hour per day reading. Minimum.
Be sure to put the knowledge to use because knowledge unused is worthless.
Nobody appreciates a book-worm nerd who never accomplished anything.
Everybody respects well-read men who put their knowledge to use.
Put the best books for men on your bookshelf and earn the knowledge of the ages.
These great authors of the ages will teach you very valuable life lessons.
15) Always Wear a Mask of Success
Success requires you wear a mask of success.
You must never be “caught with your pants down”.
Wearing a mask is not about hiding, it is about showing only the best aspects of your personality.
Relax in private, never relax in public. In public, you show your best self.
For example, just because you woke up tired one day does not mean you need to show it to other people.
You’ve got to always put your best foot forward.
16) Develop a Personal Uniform
Last summer I let my hair grow out much larger than ever before and I noticed one thing: people treated me like a movie star.
When I am clean shaved and have a terrific haircut, people start treating me like royalty.
Looking neat and dressing like a man of success is key in today’s world, where most men dress and look like clowns.
People treat you better when you are dressed well.
This is just a fact of life.
It’s all in the presentation.
If you present the best version of yourself people will treat you like the best version of yourself.
This is why it is important to dress well every day.
To dress well every single day without fail I recommend to develop a personal uniform.
All of the greats from Steve Jobs to Lincoln had a very distinct look.
17) Work Every Day
Working every day is the magic that makes great things happen and saves a man’s soul.
You want to live in heaven?
Heaven is found in the discipline of daily work.
Want to live in hell?
Don’t do any work.
There is a big reason why welfare bums are miserable (they don’t work).
When you don’t work every day you have no desire for life.
Without a reason to work every day there is no reason to live life.
Work is desire.
Work is freedom.
A day off is a day of slavery to boredom and longing and sloth.
Always remember that your body and mind are like that of a shark, always needing to move forward.
If a shark in the ocean ever stops moving forward, its soul dies and eventually its body dies.
The same thing happens to you if you stop working, if you stop moving forward, you die, in soul and body.
18) Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Comparing yourself to others is pointless and futile because the only competition is yourself.
Only ever compete with the person you were yesterday, your old(er) version.
You are you, you are not and will never be someone else.
You do not have access to anyone else’s mind, nor to anyone else’s thoughts and you cannot control what other will people do.
Do not worry about them, only worry about what you can control and the only thing you can control is yourself.
THERE IS NO COMPETITION.
There is no competition to be you because there is only one you and there will only ever be one of you.
Be your unique self and work every day to become stronger, wiser, faster and smarter than YOU were last week, last month, last year and 5, 10 years ago, etc..
Who gives a damn what Teddy and Freddy are doing?
That is their business.
Let them be involved in their business and you stick to yours.
19) Develop the Body Of a Spartan
Nothing in life is guaranteed but I can Guarantee you 100% of this:
People treat you well when you look like a Greek God.
In my life I have been skinny, a bit overweight, and I have been heavily muscled.
Here’s what I learned…
When you’re skinny you’re just a regular person, when you have mature muscle you become something more and people treat you as something more.
People will come to you out of the blue just to touch your arms and say “WOW!”
To be the best you can be requires you to develop your body to the best of its ability.
Remember, physical development aka bodybuilding is not the same thing as exercising.
Exercise is like meditation that you do for your heart and your mind (especially cardio, outside in nature), bodybuilding is what you do to make your body look like an ancient Greek sculpture and you cannot die without looking like carved from rock statue at least once.
You must develop a 6 pack at least once in your life.
Looking lean and mean is not just wonderful for physical attraction.
When you are lean (11-12% bodyfat at most), your MIND becomes sharp and clear as a cut diamond.
Hitlers 2nd in command Herman Goering, bragged about how awesome he felt when he was in prison awaiting sentencing for his many war crimes.
He attributed his newfound sharpness and mental clarity to losing 50-60 pounds while incarcerated.. Look up Goering pictures on Google and you’ll see this man was a fat pig while serving as a Nazi.
This evil devil man actually felt his best when he was in prison!
This is because in prison you cannot eat whatever and how much food you want, so weight loss and leanness comes automatically.
The good news is you don’t have to go to prison to become lean, mean and sharp minded.
Understand: You cannot develop the body and mind of a spartan if you frequently gorge yourself on fast food, processed food, sugar and other calorie laden crap.
A Great Body Will Make You Standout Above the Average Man
The only way to develop the body of a Greek god is to to cook your own food.
On most days, you should be preparing all of your own meals.
You must know exactly what you are going to eat for each of your meals every day.
Preparing your own meals is easy when you eat infrequently like the human body was designed to (intermittent fasting).
20) Exercise Every Day
Exercise is not just for physical development, it is for mental and physical health.
You have to exercise to be healthy, in both mind and body.
Exercise must be a part of your daily routine just like using the bathroom, showering, and shaving.
Exercise is also the way you develop energy.
I never feel more energetic and alive than during and after an exercise session.
Like Ralph Waldo Emerson said, the world belongs to the energetic.
21) Never Complain
Complaints are feminine.
Feminine types complain because they believe that they do not have the ability to change circumstance, which is incorrect.
Change is nothing but an attitude of the mind.
Complaining keeps you from evolving to a higher form.
As a true man of virtue there is no acceptable reason to complain.
No one likes to hear complaints.
22) Be Brave
A great man is a brave man.
To become a great man, you must learn to be brave by doing something brave like killing a wild hog with your bare hands or going into business for yourself.
To become brave you must live outside your comfort zone and often do things that you have never done before.
Traveling and exploring the world is one great way to live outside your comfort zone.
You will never understand the reality of the world (the good, the bad and the ugly) by sitting at home watching TV, surfing the internet and scrolling through social media.
Living outside your comfort zone will turn you into a brave, fearless, wise and thick-skinned man with the self-confidence and self-discipline that 98% of the worlds population will never have.
Entrepreneurship is brave because when you start no one will believe in you, no one will trust you, no one will help you, and everyone will doubt you.
Therefore, success rests solely on your shoulders.
You make it happen or you quit.
The whole world respects a man who makes it happen and the whole world secretly disdains a quitter.
They’ll tell you soothing words like “you made the right choice”, but they tell you these words because they are weak minded and they secretly rejoice in your failure.
Show them you are anything but weak, prove them wrong this year, and always.
Until next time,